A Day in the Life of Mr Mom!

Well today, I thought I would write about something a little unique to medicine, but none the less important. I've written about a surgery day, and an OPD day, but today I think I'm going to change gears a bit. Today I'm going to write about my “stay at home with the kids” day. I currently stay with the kids on Tuesdays and Thursdays while Shea goes to work. I've found these days the most rewarding, but also the most challenging. Here in Zimbabwe the challenges are unique. There is no car, no familiar kid distractions(YMCA/Zoo), hundreds of kilometers to the nearest shopping center, and power outages that make planning meals and doing laundry a bit of a challenge. I think I have gotten used to all the little curve balls (well at least they don't surprise me so much now.......in fact sometime there even fun) and I really love being a stay at home dad. So today there will be no stories of life and death struggle (well maybe for the ants and bugs that cross Beau's path), no blood, guts and bodily fluid (well there is the frequent diaper surprises produced by the little ones), and no life threatening infectious disease (well we did have that really bad stomach bug going around.....Oh well). So today I'll keep it simple, I'm just going to recount for you the details of my day at home with the kids here in Zimbabwe. I know, I know, I know....many of you are thinking how boring, and you know I'm inclined to agree with you. But house wives everywhere need a champion, and now with my vast 4 months of experience I think I can be that champion. So here's the story on April 29th of 2 crazy little kids, and their Dad who is just trying to keep up.

So the day for me started when Gracie woke up at 6am. Usually Shea and I just lay in bed and hang out with her, since there is very little Gracie time the rest of the day (once her big brother wakes up). At 7am I went to the hospital devotional with Paul. Today the Shona singing was beautiful as usual and Paul gave some wonderful words on the basics of salvation. After that the marathon begins. I arrive back home and both kids are up. Shea is getting them ready to eat, but leaves the rest of the job to me since she needs to finish getting ready for work. This morning's breakfast routine went pretty smooth. Usually I sit between the kids with my own bowl of oatmeal. I feed Gracie her rice cereal, and make sure Beau is hitting his mouth with the spoon more then the other parts of his face. And occasionally I'll steal a bite myself. We all finish eating, and Beau is already begging to get down and play. So I rush to the kitchen to get a clean rag, and do my best attempt at cleaning the oatmeal out of various spots on his clothes and skin. He passes the dad test and now he's off to the living room to play for a few seconds. By now its 8am and Rhonda and Shea are leaving for the hospital for the day. Luckily, we'll see them back at tea time. I finish getting Gracie cleaned up. She really wants to be held right now, but I have to put her in a spot that is safe and she will half-way enjoy as try and get Beau cleaned, changed and dressed for the day. From here I'm just going to give a little timed play by play with a little side commentary as needed:

8:15 Beau sits on the toilet (his first day in big boys....he's pretty excited we'll see how long it lasts!!)

8:20 Entertain the kids while cleaning up the bedroom (Not as easy as it sounds)

8:30 Beau is back to the toilet (he actually told me he had to go...that's a first!...he goes and get the M&M (a great reward)

8:40 We all wrestle on the bed (Gracie and I versus Beau....we always win!)

8:50 Gracie goes down for a nap (not without a fight though...she is really screaming)

9:00 Beau is on the toilet again (Are you noticing a recurring theme here!)

9:05 We've got power back on ( this has been a long week without much power, so seeing the fans spin is a welcome surprise)

9:08 I go to put the eggs on the stove for tea time( Tea time is usually from 10-1030, and we have all become accustom to hard boiled eggs at tea (its quick and its a great source of protein that the kids like)

9:10 I go outside to play with Beau and also do some Physical therapy with him (oh and by the way Gracie finally stops crying) We catch lizards, bug, and various insects. Also climb some stairs to strengthen his right leg

9:25 Beau and I run to the hospital to check on Shea and Rhonda's rounds (He likes seeing his mama at work)

9:30 More PT with Beau (we climb some stairs and hang from bars at the play ground.....yes there actually is a playground here, not with US standard regulations, but still there is some stuff to play on)

9:40 Went back inside to check on Gracie (still sleeping), and put on some hot water for tea

9:45 Beau is back on the toilet....the big boys are still dry and he gets 2 M&M's for this one( 1 for being dry and one for going......I know to much detail)

9:45 Gracie starts crying again...I give her a second and she is back to sleep(thank-goodness!)

10:00 Beau and I are back outside catching some more bugs before Shea and Rhonda come home for tea

10:10 Gracie wakes up again...this time for good

10:15 Shea is back so we have some tea, eggs, and peanut butter and bread (Beau loves the egg whites, but can't stand the yolk) This is definitely one of may favorite Zimbabwean traditions.

10:30 I get called from the hospital to put in an Intraosseous line for a man that is very dehydrated. I gladly take a small break from the kids, and go with Paul to the hospital to put in the line. We have a nice drill for these IO lines...it works pretty slick (anyway enough medicine...back to the kids)

10:50 Shea finds Beau is wet while he is sitting in his chair eating( We made it almost 3 hours...not bad for a first time in the “big boys”)

11:00 Shea and Rhonda leave back for work

11:05 I finish feeding Beau and while feeding Gracie he tells me he has to “poop” I pick him up to run to the toilet, and he says “poop in the pants”........man, we were so close....that was kind of a mess to change

11:10 So I guess were back to the cloth diaper diaper...so I changed Beau into the cloth diaper for now (Gracie is crying now(squeaky wheel always gets the grease)

11:20 I change Gracie

11:25 Played with Beau and Gracie on the floor for a while

11:45 Read them both several books (At this time April is warming up some left-overs for our 1pm lunch...thank-goodness for leftovers) April does a great job organizing our meals for the day. My job usually consists of peeling fruits and veggies, cleaning dishes and putting together some of the simpler side dishes. I'm definitely the least skilled cook in the house (even Paul is quite skilled in the kitchen). But I am learning a lot, and occasionally get to throw together a little something myself. Its been a good learning experience for me.

11:55 Took Beau to the toilet....again (another M&M is earned)

12:00 Put Beau down for a nap

12:10 Time for 1 on 1 with Gracie (as I said earlier with her big brother always around, she rarely gets much 1 on 1 attention. So I enjoy getting the chance just to play with her even if it is for a short while. She starts getting fussy pretty soon....She's tired and needs her nap!

12:30 Changed Gracie's diaper

12:35 Gracie goes down for a nap (but once again she's not happy about it and is letting out quite a scream

12:55 Gracie finally stops crying

13:15 Everyone's home for lunch

13:20 Beau wakes up

13:30 I feed Beau some of our left-over delight (he kind of picks at, not to hungry right now)

13:45 Gracie wakes up

13:50 I get cereal ready for Gracie to start eating

14:15 After meals are finished and diapers are changed/bathroom breaks taken(another M&M earned by the way)The three of us head to the shops for a nice afternoon outing. This is always a nice break in the day for me. I put Gracie in Paul and Aprils Stroller, and put Beau on my neck and we walked quite conspicuously to the shops. Its quite an interesting strip of tiny rundown buildings. There are often a few shady people walking around, with women pumping water out of a well, and barnyard animals roaming free. A white guy with 2 kids sticks out like a neon sign. I have gotten used to it, and for me its just a good chance to get out of the house, and pick up some stuff we need as well as whatever “junk food” I can find. Beau always enjoys seeing the people and all the animals that wander around down there. We got a few things, and headed back to the guest house.

15:00 We return from the shops

15:15 A visitor from the Netherlands arrives. She brought several hydrocephalus kids to be looked at, but is confused about where she is supposed to be staying. So April and I tried to sort out those issues while the kids were beginning to melt down, and dinner was in the midst of preparation

15:30 Change both kids diapers

15:45 Help with dinner preparation (stir fry tonight)

16:20 I take the kids outside to keep them distracted and avoid any big 4:00 pm meltdown. My sister Mary Beth coined 4pm as the “witching hour” with the little ones, and I've found that the phrase is very accurate. Gracie doesn't want to be put down anymore. So trying to play with Beau while holding Gracie is always challenging. And Beau always gets a little more needy at this time as well. He's also a little more rough with Abbi at this time...so I really have to watch him close. That's why I usually just go outside so the temptation to tackle her is not as strong.

17:00 Start feeding the kids as they begin there meltdown (Shea is not home yet....I think it was a busy day at the theater)

17:15 Gracie has a nice surprise for me....so I take her to change her diaper

17:30 Beau is still eating well, Gracie on the other hand is melting down. She doesn't want this cereal anymore. She just wants some breast milk.

18:00 Shea comes home and I can gladly pass off Gracie and finish getting Beau fed and ready for bed

18:20 For the next 30-40 minutes I go through Beau's bedtime routine which consists of chasing him around the house, brushing his teeth, chasing him around the house, changing his diaper, chasing him around the house(OK so you get the point), getting his “night night” shirt on, doing some stretching, reading a couple of books, and saying our prayers. He always calls me back in to let me know a few things I forget, but now at 19:10 he's in bed, Shea has Gracie in bed, and at least for now we have some peace and quiet. Another wonderful, yet exhausting day! Not a lot of “me” time today. But as I've found stay at home parenting is a full time job, with something always going on. My hats off to mom's and dad's everywhere that make it look easy. Hope you enjoyed looking into the life of a stay at home dad on the mission field!